We talk a lot about inheritance in this business: estates, beneficiaries, the tax implications of passing wealth from one generation to the next. There's another kind of inheritance that deserves just as much attention, and it rarely comes up in a financial plan, even though it often drives decisions more than anything on a balance sheet.

We don't just inherit assets from our families. We inherit habits, instincts, and unspoken rules about money too, and most of us run on them for years without ever consciously choosing them. It might be a caution around debt that occasionally holds you back from a genuinely good opportunity. It might be an assumption that investing is "for other people," people with more money, more knowledge, or more permission than you feel you have. Or it might be a habit of putting everyone else first, so completely that spending on yourself, even when you can clearly afford to, feels foreign.

These patterns don't announce themselves. They don't arrive with a label that says "this belief came from watching my parents navigate a layoff" or "this instinct came from a grandmother who knew real scarcity and turned it into real resilience." They run quietly in the background of everyday financial decisions, long after the people who taught them to us have left the room.

This piece is here to change that. Let's bring a few of those patterns into the light, not to judge them (most of them made real sense given where they came from), but to see them clearly and decide, on purpose, which ones still earn a place in your financial life today.

Recognizing the Patterns We Didn't Choose

Here's something I've learned after years of sitting across the table from clients: most people have never actually separated their financial instincts from their financial history. They assume the way they feel about saving, spending, debt, or risk is simply who they are, a personality trait rather than a pattern picked up somewhere along the way. But instincts have origins. Trace a financial habit back far enough, and you'll usually find something worth knowing: it wasn't built from your own experience alone. It was handed to you, and it's yours now to examine and claim on your own terms.

This isn't about blame. Families pass down money habits the same way they pass down recipes or favourite expressions, mostly without meaning to, and mostly because those habits once served a real, protective purpose. A parent who came of age during a recession and grew fiercely careful with money wasn't wrong to be cautious. If you're carrying that same caution into a very different financial reality decades later, it's time to ask whether it's still doing its best work for you, or whether it's ready for an upgrade.

Take this as your invitation to find out. A few questions worth asking yourself directly:

• Which of my financial habits came from a real decision, and which came from watching how money was handled growing up?
• Am I saving out of strategy, or out of an old fear of not having enough?
• How do I tell the difference between caution that protects me and caution that's simply inherited anxiety?
• When did I last question a money rule I've followed my whole life without knowing where it came from?
• Is there a financial decision I keep avoiding that has more to do with an old family pattern than with my actual circumstances today?
• What would my financial life look like if I built it entirely from my own values, starting today?

You don't need to answer all of these at once. Sit with even one of them for a week, notice where it shows up in your day-to-day decisions, and you'll start to see real, lasting clarity around a pattern that's been running on autopilot for years. Some habits, once examined, are worth keeping exactly as they are. A grandmother's insistence on an emergency fund may be exactly the right instinct for you too. Others, once named, become something you get to choose again, this time with your eyes open. Either way, you come out ahead: not by rejecting everything you were taught, but by making absolutely sure you're the one in the driver's seat.

A Final Pause

Here's the empowering part about inherited patterns: they don't require anger or sheer willpower to loosen their grip. They loosen the moment you actually see them. Awareness is the first act of choice. Once you can name a habit, once you can say, "this is something I picked up along the way, not something I chose," you're free to decide what happens next. Keep what serves you well. Retire the rest, without a second thought.

You don't need to overhaul your entire financial life this month to start. Pick one inherited money habit and get curious about where it came from. Ask whether it still fits the life you're actually living, not the one your family history assumed you'd have. And the next time you catch yourself making a financial decision on autopilot, pausing over an investment, avoiding a conversation about your estate, hesitating to spend on something you've clearly earned, stop for one second and ask yourself: is this really mine?

That one deliberate pause is where a financial plan built on your own values truly begins. Let's have that conversation whenever you're ready.

Janice

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Janice Domaratzki, CIM │Senior Portfolio Manager & Investment Advisor, Domaratzki Wealth Management │ RBC Wealth Management │ RBC Dominion Securities Inc. │ T. 613-564-4840  │ T. 1-800-267-7680  │ 333 Preston Street, Suite 1100, Ottawa, Ontario K1S 5N4 │janice.domaratzki@rbc.com │Domaratzki Wealth Management website

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